Handling kids and their tantrums sometimes seemed like the greatest job to the parents. Actually, in the present day scenario, parents are both working - no matter whether they are going to the office or working from home, it is a fact that they cannot give enough time to their kids. At this stage, the kids are either raised by their grandparents or relatives, or babysitters.
It never fills the gap of the parents to kids and the lack of parental guidance sometimes sadden them. Gradually they start becoming stubborn out of their sadness and grief. Their tantrums need to be given proper attention, otherwise, it will lead to serious problems afterward and this task is to be done preferably by parents. Here are some effective ideas to handle their tantrums:
Make Them Calm
If your child is shouting at you or demanding something unnecessary, your first task will be to make them calm. It is advised to the parents not to come to any agreement or negotiation when the child is tempted. It's true that parents after an entire day working don't have much patience for all these and they try to give what their child is demanding. It is a wrong method and children will believe that they will get everything they want just with little tantrums. This is equally wrong.
Allow the child to calm down first and then come to any negotiation. Also, don't fulfill the demand of the child entirely - Let them wait some days for that. It will increase their patience.
Play Game with Them Instead of Asking for A Daily Update
As a parent, you are unable to spend time with your child before evening - that's completely fine. Make sure when you are spending time with your kid, you make it memorable and productive. So, do not ask your child what he/she did the entire day - instead, play with them. Be it an online game or indoor or outdoor game - just play with them and help them to relax.
In case, you start asking about their daily activities, your child will tend to leave you and indulge in mobile games or other activities. You have to understand that your child missed your presence the entire day. So, whenever you manage at least some time for them, please make sure you do something productive.
Practice Leisure Activities Together
It can be singing, dancing, drawing or cooking, do it with your child. It will make your child feel happy and valued. Indeed after 9-10 hours of office works, it may seem a bit difficult, but for the sake of better development of your child, it is necessary. You may hire a dance or music tutor for this.
Listen to them - Don't Ignore
Children often become more stubborn due to parental ignorance. We understand after an entire day of work, it may seem a bit disgusting, yet you have to keep this disgust away and offer them sufficient attention. Maybe the child wants to complain about the babysitter or grandparents - listen to it. Maybe the child is trying to inform you of some exceptional event of the day - listen to it.
Listening with a blank face will indicate that you are not interested in it - ask them questions and give them attention. It will make your child happy and he/she will not feel left out. Also, don't forget to acknowledge the child.
Don't Shout - Instead, Allow Them Freedom
When your child is extremely stubborn and you cannot control him/her in any way, allow them the freedom to work as per their wish. As a parent, you may understand that what the child wants to do will create problems or will lead to failure. You can aware the child of the possible risks. Be gentle while giving them warnings and do not shout - it will cause more tantrums. However, an extremely stubborn child will hardly listen to the warnings.
Experts say that these types of kids need to taste failure sometimes. This failure will help them to understand that their plan may not always lead to success. It will help them to beware of the same types of action in the future and they will also think more.
Engage Them in Mind Games
Tantrums of the kids are mainly the results of impatience. So, engage them in something that helps them to concentrate more. Play memory games, puzzles, or other mind games and strategy games. While playing, try not to play more than a few specific sets as playing more will lead to addiction.
Basically, these children feel neglected and ignored. They are frustrated as well and because of this, they create tantrums. Proper attention and care from the parents will end this problem from grass root levels.
With a passion for writing, Rachita is in the field of content writing for more than 5 years. Here, she writes the blogs for MyPrivateTutor Singapore. Being a literature student, she has a strong addiction to reading as well. On a lazy day, she just needs a cozy setting and her favorite book or web series.